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Beauty in ordinary places

While I’m finishing up my last couple of photos from Madagascar, I have a little something I want to share with you.

This morning I went for a walk and an idea for a project popped in my head. With my grateful project still going strong I have become so much more positive and focused on the beauty that’s all around us, so I figured, why not take a photo of a very ordinary place that really doesn’t look so beautiful at first glance, but spent a couple minutes there searching for those things you might not see at first and look for the beauty in that place. I was amazed at the things I found!

 

I hope you enjoyed it and that next time you come across something or someone “ordinary” you try and see the beauty in it/them:)

Why not join me and share your projects with me by posting the link in the comment box! I would love to see what you come up with!

 

 

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Stay true to you and you will end up incredibly happy

Some of you may know what a perfectionist and control freak I can be. Everything needs to be organized, all the time. There’s no room for chaos. Quite funny, considering I’ve packed up my life and traveled from New Zealand to The Netherlands, to Madagascar, to South Africa in a few months time and have probably experienced more than many people do in a lifetime.

I’m also very slow (read perfectionist)….yes I’m still editing my photos from a month ago and really wanted to upload those before I was going to write about anything else, because that would just mess up the order. But this last month I spent the majority of my time by myself as Lance is currently in the bush finishing off his course and so I’ve had a lot of time to think about life, me, myself and I.

It’s such a cliche, but life really is too short to live by the rules and so I decided, screw it, I’m going to step out of my comfort zone and write this post. I really want to share some of my thoughts, so here goes…

Growing up we realize that life is all about expectations, following this so-called “Handbook of Life”. We need to live by the rules, be good, get a good career, have friends, look a certain way and fit into a box. It’s ingrained in our brains. It’s like we live on auto-pilot, not slowing down and thinking “what the hell are we doing?!” While I’m writing this I see a packet of gum next to me on my night stand. I look at the clock. 7PM, almost time for dinner. I better not have a piece. But then I think to myself, why shouldn’t I have some? What’s it going to do to me? Kill me? Life is like this all the time. We’re all just living our lives the way we are “supposed” to live it. But isn’t it just ridiculous? Why are we so focused on what others think and don’t just follow are hearts and do what we want to do? As long as it won’t hurt anyone, go for it! You’re worth it!

When I was 13 I stated becoming depressed. I felt different. I couldn’t relate to any of my friends. They liked to go out, were interested in boys and would link their arms while skipping through the school halls laughing. I hung out with them and they were great friends, but I never truly felt like I belonged. I hated it. I felt like I was this strange creature who no one would ever understand. I cried at night and pretended everything was fine during the day at school. The thought that there were so many other people my age going through the same things never occurred to me, so I kept quiet and bottled up my feelings. At age 15 I moved to New Zealand. The idea of starting all over sounded like a dream come true. However I soon realized that no matter where you live, you always take yourself with you, so my depression got worse. I spent my lunchtimes in the toilet, scared anyone would know I was in there. I tried making friends, but I was so unhappy, so self conscious that it was impossible for others to love me if I didn’t love myself first. I dropped out of high school, but remained unhappy. Thoughts of suicide were there every day of the week. I hated myself and my life.

At the start of 2010 I knew something had to drastically change. Saying that I was scared is an understatement. After an open day at University, which I attended with my mum and sister I sat in the car, in the McDonald’s car park paralyzed with fear, crying my eyes out, because I was so scared of facing my fear of being around other people and starting this new chapter on my own. I got very close to giving up that day, but a little voice told me that it was going to be alright.

On the 1st of March, 2010 I started my Bachelors Degree in Applied Visual Imaging. On my first day I met some really cool people and even got hit on by a guy for the first time in my life! Surely this was all a dream. Life wasn’t fun? Right?! My first week at Uni I fell back into this old pattern of locking myself in my room, because it was safe and later heard that people thought I was a snob for not interacting with them. If only they knew…

Soon enough I made friends. Real friends. I felt like I finally belonged somewhere. I started to enjoy life. It really wasn’t all that bad. In fact, it was pretty cool! My whole way of thinking changed and when I started being happy with who I was I realized that others started to like me too. This was crazy! Within the next few years, my life did a 180 and I became confident, happy with myself and started believing in my true potential. I started to visualize my dreams and they came true. If anyone would have told me that this was going to be my life I would have laughed at their face and told them they were crazy.

Today when I think back of those unhappy years I wish I had spent my lunchtimes outside in the sun with a good book, instead of hiding in the toilets. I wish I had spoken about my feelings with people my age. I wish I had had the courage to face my fears, but I am happy to know that my story has brought me to where I am today. I am happy that the struggles my family and I went through in New Zealand have shaped me to be a person I am today. I am proud of her, I love her and wouldn’t want to change her one bit.

Ten years ago, at the age of 13, I became depressed. Today I can say that I have grown immensely and that I am happy. Of course I still have my bad days, everyone has, but I feel a sense of peace. I’m not “there” yet, but I know I’m on my way and I’m on the right path. I see the good in people and the beauty in everyday things. I am grateful. I break the rules of “life” and tell myself everyday to step outside that box and live the life I want to live, be happy and stay true to myself.

Everyone has their own story. Don’t judge them before you know them. Let’s instead focus on our dreams, our goals, our passions and accept others for who they are. Be unique and let’s grab that piece of gum, break the rules, live your life and be YOU!

This is your life!

Thank you so much for reading my story. Mine isn’t by far the worst, but that’s not the point. If you’re unhappy, change. What’s the worst that could happen? I challenge you to make a list of your fears and face at least one, no matter how big or small, every day. I just did by sharing this with you. Believe in yourself, focus on the positive and be grateful for the little things in life. It really is the secret to becoming the person you want to be. I believe in you!

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Hieke - June 4, 2013 - 23:08

Thanks Fleur,
What an amazing story and great way to tell. Very wisely spoken.
You are a great inspiration to me and I hope lots of (young) people will read your story too.
Good luck with your future, I am convinced that you will be a great example for many and a successful woman in whatever you will undertake.

Jessica - June 4, 2013 - 16:22

Hi Fleur,
So proud of you, you are truly a wonderful inspiration for us all.
Thank you for you post, it coudn’t have came at better time, it is exactly what I need to read.
First fear to overcome = Presentations tomorrow (the thought is actually terrifying haha)
Goodluck with everything your working towards im sure you will do amazing.
Thank you again
Jess
xx

Grateful Video

On 1/1/2013 I started a grateful project where I would take one photo a day of something I was grateful for. The project had such an impact on me and changed my way of thinking dramatically, so I decided to take it a step further and, although I have never done video in my life, I decided to make most of the setting on my camera and on 1/2/2013 a new project was born. For the whole month of February I filmed about 3 secs a day, the things I was grateful for, the little things we often overlook. However I was enjoying it so much that I decided to keep going a little longer and include clips from my travels through Europe and Africa.

Click the image below and I hope you enjoy watching it as much as I enjoyed making it!

 

For my Photography Grateful Project check out:
http://www.fleurverhoeven.com/grateful-project/

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Paradise

On Thursday the 18th of April after our last trek through the jungle we checked out of our hotel and headed off for a four hour drive to the coast. Despite the fact that this is the only road that leads to the coast and hundreds of trucks travel it each day, the amount of potholes wasn’t as bad as I expected. We did however see a scary amount of trucks, tipped on its side in a ditch and dozens of broken down ones. We finally arrived in Tamatave (pron. Tamataaf), the main seaport of Madagascar, and were overwhelmed by the heat, chaos and the amount of people and tuk tuk’s. The streets are filled with beggars, young and old and people trying to sell you their knick knacks. If you are in need of something you will find it here. They literally sell anything you can think of.

We stayed in a place called Royal Hotel, although the name was a little misleading. We were shown to our room, which was nice. We had our own bathroom and even air conditioning and internet. However, it was the all-in-one restaurant/study/bar/storage/living/tv room with tungsten lighting, plastic flowers and outdoor furniture that made this place win the award for tackiest hotel on earth. Luckily the food was a lot better than the ambiance!

We slept well and woke early the next morning to the sound of traffic and people on the streets. I decided to ring the hotel where we were headed and in my very best French I asked the guy if they still had room. Turned out they were fully booked! Luckily there would be more hotels in the area so we headed off in the hope of finding a nice place to stay.

Although it is only 50ish kilometres to where we were going, the road is so bad that it takes about 2 hours to get there. Fortunately the drive was very beautiful and I had to pinch myself a couple times to make sure I wasn’t dreaming. I felt so grateful to be here and to drive past all these typical African villages. Growing up I dreamt of going to places like this and to actually be here and see it my own eyes instead of on TV, felt absolutely amazing.

We arrived in Foulpoint around 12 and before going anywhere else decided to double check at the hotel we had planned to go to if there really wasn’t any room. Since our driver spoke fluent French he would be able to help out. As soon as we drove up to the hotel both of us were gobsmacked by the beauty of this place: palm trees, white sandy beaches, a swimming pool with bar to drink your cocktails, a restaurant and beautiful rooms. We had all our fingers and toes crossed in the hope that we could stay here.  As it turned out if we were willing to move into a slightly more expensive room for one night, we would be able to stay here the entire 10 days!! We were so happy!

We unpacked our stuff from the car and jumped straight into the pool. We spent the rest of the day swimming, sunbathing, walking along the beach, exploring, watching a lady get a massage for 4 hours! (not exaggerating) and had dinner at the restaurant that night: A seafood platter, pasta and $1,50 vodkas. This place truly is paradise!

On day 4 we moved into our 3rd and permanent room for the rest of our stay. Today was very hot, so I spent it mostly in the pool, sunbathing, reading my book and listening to music. Because it was a Monday, most people had gone back home and so we had the entire place almost to ourselves. That afternoon we went in search for a local fisherman (although “in search” isn’t quite the right word). Manda Beach Hotel is a huge tourist attraction that the locals profit from greatly. They aren’t allowed on the hotel property, so as soon as you step onto the beach it’s like being a magnet, attracting every single local that is there trying to sell you food, boat trips, massages, dinner etc. We had been wanting to eat out on the beach, so we made a deal with one of the fishermen and would meet him again at 6, after he’d caught our lobster and prawns fresh from the ocean. In the meantime we enjoyed the amazing weather with some cocktails:)

At 6 o’clock our guy was already busy preparing our food. I can’t tell you how good it tasted!

On day 6 we went to explore the area. There is an old fort nearby we wanted to find, so we set off and walked along the beach before about 45 mins, taking photos, before we found it.

A Malagasy man in his late 40′s took us for a tour. Fort Manda as a place where many Malagasy people hid from the French in the 1800′s. There are canons all around the place and even a few old canon balls lying around. However back in the day, they would often use rice balls instead. These were mixed with rocks and poison, which would kill you within 3 mins!

The walls are built using a wooden structure, covered in a mixture of rocks, stones and egg whites. It’s crazy to imagine how many eggs they would have had to use to cover the entire fort!

Inside the place there is a flag post, a kitchen, an office and even a jail. The large tree, close to the entrance acts as a kind of church. It was very interesting to hear about the history of the island and how the French invaded the place and sold many Malagasy off as slaves to places such as India, while the British were there to save them.

The office

Looking out over the kitchen.

The office

From left to right: Jail, Office and Kitchen.
Note how the door of the kitchen is very low. People back then weren’t much taller than a child nowadays.

Our very friendly tour guide who was full of knowledge

Walking back to the hotel I saw so many beautiful children that I made myself step out of my comfort zone and asked the parents if I could photograph them.

Day 7 started off really great! We had promised to meet up with one of the local guys at 9AM to take us snorkeling through the coral in his pirogue. I had no idea what to expect when we had made the deal wit him the day before, but it was 10x better than I had expected! It was beautiful! We saw so many different fish and other sea creatures. Truly amazing! We swam for about an hour and went back just in time as the weather turned quickly. Blue skies one minute, black and heavy rain the next. Back in our room I realized my arms, legs and hands were cut up from the coral. I felt like Tom Hanks in the coral scene in Cast Away hahah.

Later that afternoon, once the rain had stopped me walked around the village, bought some local food (coconut lollies) from the ladies that sell it on the beach, some bananas and met up with out pirogue guy from that morning to organize dinner for that night: 1 kilo of praws, half a kilo of lobster with salad and rice! It was amazing!

Now this is where the story gets a little awkward and I might possibly share a little too much information, but if it makes someone laugh it’ll be worth it….

Later that night, while it was already dark and the only light available was that of them moon, Lance and I decided to go for a run on the beach. After a few kilometers we were ready to head back and this is when “shit happened” (excuse the pun). From the day I got to Madagascar my stomach hadn’t been very stable and apparently it’s normal for first timers in Madagascar to suffer from diarrhea…. well you can guess what happened next. The running had obviously made my intestines work overtime and there was no way I could hold it in any longer. I sprinted into the ocean and… well…. I’ll spare you the rest, but I can tell you it wasn’t pleasant and neither was the smell. Definitely one of the lowest points in my life. I felt so disgusting and unattractive haha, but so extremely grateful it happened at night, with no one else around to witness it (except for Lance, who just stood there laughing his ass off!)

Drinking vodka and lemonade on the beach under the stars. Does life get any better?!

We ended up eating on the beach about 4 nights during out 10 days away. Every single time the food was to die for! I wish I knew how they prepare the prawns, because the flavors are truly amazing!

The hotel we stayed in.

The village

The beach outside the hotel.

…and how can I forget our little friend, Suzie., who kept us company every night we spent on the beach photographing and drinking vodka:)

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